For years, I have been working closely with women who are very sensitive and struggle with big emotions, such as anxiety and depression. The biggest mistake I see women making in their effort to master their emotions is that they push back tears and stuff down anger. This can lead to a breakdown in one’s ability to be effective in her professional life.
I am committed to teaching women (as well as men) how to have the confidence and clarity they need to thrive in their life. Learning those processes skillfully takes some training. In my therapy practice I use body centered tools (somatic) to teach you how to connect the body and the mind to bring balance to your emotional system.
When we push back our anger and stuff down our tears, we are cutting ourselves off from so many important emotions, which can lead to anxiety and depression. The solution for this comes in the form of understanding the importance and the wisdom of our emotions.
“Emotional tears also contain stress hormones which get excreted from the body through crying. After studying the composition of tears, Dr. Frey found that emotional tears shed these hormones and other toxins which accumulate during stress. Additional studies also suggest that crying stimulates the production of endorphins, our body’s natural pain killer and “feel-good” hormones.”
Psychology Today https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/emotional-freedom/201007/the-health-benefits-tears
Tears are releasing, and our anger is wisdom and passion. Anger is a strong, passionate indication that something needs attention and when we withhold our anger, we get more emotional and confused, and that can look like moodiness and irritability. Tears are our bodies way of regulating our emotions and when we stuff them down, we get more confused and our thinking may become muddled. Tears are cleansing and bring clarity.
Over the past few years, I’ve been working with women struggling with the experience of anxiety and depression. I am convinced that not allowing tears and anger leads to depression and anxiety, often a downward spiral.
In my work I have seen that those who fall into depression and anxiety patterns often have a strong pattern and habit of suppressing tears and anger. Subsequently, many end-up losing their jobs, friendships and self-esteem. The solution for these women has been for them to cultivate more balance in their emotions and relearning how to process tears and anger.
Learning those processes skillfully takes some training. In my therapy practice I use body centered tools (somatic) to teach you how to connect the body and the mind to bring balance to your emotional system.